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Getting Past No
In order to really raise free people, including myself, it takes a LOT of self-work. It’s deep work, it’s continuous, and it can be overwhelming. Who knew I had so many personal challenges?? But the steps forward feel so GOOD! I’ve mentioned that I, and other people in my household that shall not be named, have control issues (and communication challenges) that show up in various ways. We aren’t abnormal or strange. We were taught that being a good parent meant having your kid under control. And we are some good ass parents because we control the shit out of everything! What time she wakes up, what time she goes…
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Losing Control
As I continue on this journey towards sustained optimal well-being and joy, one of the things that have continuously come up as a pothole on the road is the issue of control. In fact having control, using control, being controlled, became so much of an issue that it caused me to take my first mothering sabbatical, a story for another day. At the time I felt like going mad. Seriously. There were questions all the time. She asked for a snack. And then asked for another snack. When she wanted to change the movie, she asked if she could watch a different movie. Then ten minutes later, I didn’t…