Yesterday we went shopping with previously discussed money, plus some extra that Mighty was able to negotiate from her father. It’s cute.

She’s excited and picking up things without understanding the total amount she had in her arms. When I advised her to count it up, she felt like a better option would be to take it all to the counter and figure it out there.

I went into, “well, what we ain’t gonna do” mode. She told me, Mommy, your voice right now sounds like. And then she rolled her neck.

I got the point. Okay. My bad.

In her book, Raising Free People, Akilah Richard talks about developing a parenting patois with our children. It’s a shared language for mutual understanding. And what I understood from that head roll was that my posture and way of speaking were not going to be helpful to the situation at hand.

So I fixed it. We counted up her stuff, made some decisions, and finished our shopping trip, happy and in peace.

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